Sometimes this is difficult when you don't see how much support and help you have around you. Sometimes you have support but it's not the support you need or you don't realize how much weight you have lifted off your shoulders by having someone to be there and handle the victim.
I would say we slowly realize how lucky and grateful we are to have our help Maria who helps us with my grandpa. My grandpa is very stubborn and difficult and to have that much patience... well you must be an angel! LOL. Maria does my grandpa's breakfast and lunch as well as a snack or two and then makes sure he has enough coffee and sugar and milk so that he can make his coffee. She also helps make sure he is doing alright and is there when my mom and I need to go out. It truly does help a lot and it also helps that seeing as we work from home Maria keeps him from coming to bother us with silly things that while working we cannot focus on.
We try not being horrible to my grandpa but sometimes he can be so rude and then somehow you must stay incredibly kind, it is not an easy thing and with at least having her help us we have less of it to deal with and she has so much more patience than my mom and I put together.
Although what I have noticed is that It is so easy to be kind and patient with someone you are NOT related too, live with or even know. We knew someone who suffered from dementia and it was so easy to just listen to the same stories and answer the same question and we just had enough patiences for it. But, people who live with can't handle it with the person who is has been invaded.
This is just a short quick post as its mainly dedicated to our help, Maria.
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